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Dear Jaja:
Just turned 40. I’ve honestly never been with anyone yet. Guess you can say I am the real life “40 year old virgin”. I am a certifed fitness trainer and in perfect health. I grew up a shy guy and I am still seeking my first. I’ve turned to backpage escort ads because I was seeking an escort for my first time. I’m not looking to be a guy that makes a “hobby” out of going to escorts. I’m really just looking to pick someone, the right girl, escort or not to be my very first for an amazing experience. I want to believe and assume that the right escort, dancer or model would be totally cool with being someone’s first. The escort ads are VERY discouraging to say the least. I’m finding there are many fake ads, pics and people out there. The legit escorts ask me for references of who I’ve ”been with before”. That’s pretty hard to provide honestly when I’m seeking my very first, so its a no-win situation from both sides. Sad to end up dead or arrested just seeking my first time! Seriously though… Being that I waited this long, I want to pick someone great, someone beautiful for an amazing no strings attached first time. Any advice you can give me, I would appreciate it. Thank you.
Mike* in Middleton, NY 

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